Wow and Flutter - A Catchup Ramble

[elrhiarhodan]

Everytime I settle down to write one of these, something else comes up and I get distracted from my distraction.


1. Last Monday, when I felt like I was simply drowning in a tide of disaffection, I asked for hugs - something I don't normally do - and it seemed like everyone just glommed me. THANK YOU, I really, really needed it. The situation isn't resolved yet. It has to do with my house sale - the buyer is Not a Nice Person, Instead She Is Greedy and Nasty(tm). "Thank you" is very easy to say - but it is heartfelt. Your outpouring of love and compassion is so greatly appreciated.

2. The Post Ep Dish...where do I begin? I love doing the Dish. I love it even more now that I don't simply squee in realtime, but let myself enjoy the episode and then do my write-up after it initially airs. I do the Dish because I want to share my thoughts and I want to hear your opinions, too. But sometimes, I also want to just enjoy the episode for what it is (even if it's flawed). Last week, as I closed my post, I asked that people don't harsh my squee.

Almost everyone who commented, even those comments that weren't as unremittingly squeeful, understood what I meant by that and respected it. There were a few comments that I thought were a little too harsh (given my request for contributors to be harshless), but they were from fans I know from prior exchanges on the Dish (and thus were sort of expected).

But on Saturday - five days after the episode aired, someone I have no prior contact with left a response that was the equivalent of a turd in a bowl of flour. S/he basically commented about how s/he hated the episode and that s/he didn't care at all about Mozzie's backstory, and fast forwarded through the episode, then deleted it.

Harsh and unpleasant and frankly, quite unnecessary. I took a while to consider my reply and politely asked the commenter if s/he had read the entired Dish, including my request to avoid negative comments. The reply I received kind of startled me. In sum, s/he said that s/he was merely repeated what other people had said - and I hadn't replied to other people's "squee quashing." There was some other, less pleasant words in there too, and the comment ended:

And I will leave with one last thing.........I HATE Sara!

Which honestly made me lol and lol and lol some more. And I deleted it (and the original comment) and banned the account, which is probably useless anyway, since this "contributor" left these comments from an old and pretty much empty account (i.e., 16 comments over 4 years, no friends - all of which which screams "strawman"), or as an Anon.

Now, you may ask, why am I spending so much of my energy (limited as it may be) on this incident (when I haven't even gotten to respond to the positive comments on last week's Dish)? Well, because it bothers me from several perspectives.

I've been doing the Post Ep Dish in one form or another since early in Season Two, and it's a real source of pleasure for me - to share my thoughts, to have fellow fans comment back and exchange ideas. It's a community I love, and that I'm bringing people together at my journal is another source of joy (I love when people have their own conversations inside the Dish).

But there are moments of displeasure too. I like Sara Ellis, and I have made no attempt to hide that fact. I've asked people to respect that, and for the Dish for 4.04 - Parting Shots - I even noted that I'd delete comments I thought were bashing. (I was tempted, but I didn't).

I loved last week's episode, for all of its flaws (and long time followers of the Dish know how I love picking at the flaws and errors), and when I asked that contributors not spoil my joy, I really meant it. Last week was a bad time for me (see point 1 above) and I needed the pleasure that WC gave me.

I don't intend the Post Ep Dish to merely be an echo chamber of my own perceptions - I truly want to hear different points of view. But I also do want people to respect my wishes too. If you know I like Sara Ellis, writing a comment that she ruined the episode and you fast forwarded through her scenes isn't going to engage me. Same for what happened last week with the comment I ultimately deleted.

Am I being unreasonable to expect contributors to respect the occasional limits I put on the Dish? If I say, give me "your thinky and not-so-thinky thoughts" and then say don't bash, don't not be negative, am I contradicting myself?

I don't want to f-lock the Dish, and I don't want to ban anon comments, but I also don't want to feel bad about content on my own LJ.

Sigh (told you this was going to be a tl;dr).

3. My White Collar Big Bang is approaching completion.

Full drafts are due on the 1st, and that's definitely achievable. It's going to be about 23-25k of pure Hurt/Comfort. I don't think I've ever written quite so much with quite so little plot.

Am I happy with it? Yes - most definitely. It's an idea that I've been toying around with for almost a year. I started it last January, got a few hundred words down and abandoned it. I picked it up again for the WCPairings exchanged, wrote about 10k before realizing that it wasn't what my prompter wanted to read and set it aside. After withdrawing from the WCBB, I realized I still could submit a story (I'd just forego having an artist).

The only other thing I'm going to say at this point is that I probably won't be writing anymore physical H/C for a long, long time. Between this and The Next Six Days, I'm pretty burned out on the genre.

4. Moving ... The problems I'm having with my buyer have pushed my moving date forward to mid-September. I had hoped to be in my new home before the High Holy Days, but that probably isn't going to happen.

My nephew, who I've watched go from being a difficult toddler, to a troubled boy to an even more troubled teenager, has actually become a lovely young man.

He's been coming over on the weekends and helping me clean out the basement - or more accurately, he's been cleaning out the basement, I just point to the things that have to be thrown out. I've tried to give him money, but he won't take it. He has taken things that I'd otherwise have thrown away - he considers that payment enough.

Yesterday, my goal was to clean out my father's workbench. My dad was a very organized man, and he wasn't a packrat. Except when it came to nuts and bolts and screws and stuff like that. His workbench was an accumulation of a lifetime of spare parts. I filled six trash barrels with stuff he'd saved but never had any use for. (I have kept some of the hand tools that were in salvagable condition - more for nostalgia than any real need).

Truthfully, for the past year, I'd been avoiding the workbench because there were a lot of memories tied up with it. When we moved here, my dad took the content of his original workbench from the house I grew up in, and I remembered working side by side with him as a little girl.

So, I couldn't just randomly throw stuff out - I had to go through every box and bin, and it did pay off. I found a little bit of treasure. Well, to be honest, I'm probably the only person who'd think it was treasure.

I have an antique chandelier with hand-cut lead crystal pendants -ten-inch long prisms that end in a golfball-sized starburst. Sixteen years ago, when we moved into this place, one of the pendants broke - split at the point where the prism became the starburst. I know my dad had tried to fix it - with crazy glue, with epoxy, with a glue gun, but you can't really fix crystral or glass like that. About a decade ago, I rescued the starburst part of the crystal from the workbench, but could never find the prism. Not until yesterday, when I discovered it in the bottom of a bucket of junk - and miraculously undamaged.

Of course, I had a bit of a panic attack when I couldn't immediately put my hands on the starburst - but I did find it. And I still don't know how to fix it! There are places that supply Austrian crystal replacement pendants, but for obvious reasons, I'm not going to be able to find the exact same pendant and would need to replace all of them (obvious in that the chandelier is 100+ years old. And even if I found the exact same pattern, it wouldn't look right - old crystal has a much higher lead content and adding a newly manufactured pendant would be like using a piece of broken glass to replace the diamond in your engagement ring).

In the scheme of things, it sounds really kind of silly. But finding it gave me a bit of unalloyed happiness in a morning filled with melancholy.

5. I have a dear friend, we used to work together, and for years we've said that it feels like it's just about a week between Memorial Day and Labor Day - with the Fourth of July on Wednesday. This summer has gone extremely quickly - wasn't it just last week that I was talking about the butterflies having sex in the sapling outside my office window? (And they were huge hawkmoths, not butterflies, btw). It also feels like it's been summer forever - maybe because I've been in a state of anticipation and transition since early June. So - it's Labor Day next Monday and I'm still waiting to start my life again.

Sigh, again. I STILL need hugs.

I have gone on way, way too long, even for a pre-announced tl;dr. And as I promised, the bonus Bomer.



Thanks for listening.

Comments

[leonie_alastair]

HUGS!

I love the little treasures one finds when moving. They make up for the hysterical searches that come at the other end when treasured items can't be found anywhere! *g*

For the chandelier crystal, there are crystal glues, specifically you want one that is an ultraviolet crystal glue (rather than one that just bills itself as 'drying crystal clear.' Look for something that says it is 'optically' clear and is sold for watch and optics repairs. It won't be perfect, but I've decided that a few flaws are the signs of a life well lived. ;D

What a lovely picture of Mr. Bomer. He was just gorgeous in last week's episode.

[elrhiarhodan]

Thank you - for the hugs (most importantly) and for the advice about the crystal glue.

I think part of the problem is that the pendant is very bottom-heavy. But I'll try - because not trying is pointless.

And if it doesn't work, I'll just hang the prism without the starburst...because you're right, a few flaws are a sign of a life well lived and a home isn't a museum.

Yes, this picture of Matt is just guh!

[queenaeron]

Here's some hugs for you! OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

I understand about the summer going quickly. We just changed from quarters to semesters and so they shortened this summer from starting in mid-September to starting last week. My brain keeps thinking its September because all of the students are back in town.

Here's hoping that your buyer gets her act together and stop being a butthead!

I wish I had something inspirational to say but mostly I'm where you are, just trying to get through without losing my sanity and/or pulling out my hair. My mantras have been "Breathing is your friend" and "I can only control what I can control" and when I'm really mad at myself "Radical acceptance...you can't change the past, you can only move forward!" Do I believe any of this...well there is a reason they call it practice! Hang in there!

[elrhiarhodan]

Hugs you back.

Thank you - your kindness is always so greatly appreciated.

[kendermaus]

just a simple ::hug:: this time. So sorry that people are being stupid and you are NOT out of line asking for people to not harsh your squee. It's YOUR safe place and you're sharing with us YOUR thoughts in YOUR space. Nothing wrong with asking us to keep our muddy feet off your furniture while we're here. ::grin::

Good luck with the house thing. Buying/selling a house is REALLY stressful and having a buyer be a B**ch about it doesn't help. I've been a buyer and there's no REASON to be that way, in fact, i found being helpful and willing to compromise went a LONG way to getting me what i was hoping for. (course mine was being nice with the city inspector because it was a repossessed house we were buying from the bank - but STILL). ::more massive hugs:: Good luck and may your buyer stop being a jerk!

Lovely picture of Bomer - but then, i don't think that man can HAVE a bad picture. The camera loves him.

Anyway, more ::HUGS:: and wishes for a better day today/this week/this month/the rest of the year.

hang in there.
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[elrhiarhodan]

Thank you so very much, I appreciate the words of encouragement.

[frostfalcon.livejournal.com]

I hope the move and the house sale goes smoothly from here on out... Good luck with all of that and have a virtual (**HUG**).

Some people you just have to delete and ban, I don't know why people can't keep their mouths shut or keep their fingers off of keyboards when they can't say something nice or constructive, what ever happen to "if you don't have anything good to say, don't say anything"?

I hope the rest of the week just keeps getting better.

[elrhiarhodan]

what ever happen to "if you don't have anything good to say, don't say anything"

Yeah - I do wonder about that. I think it's the "always on" factor of the internet. Just because there's a little box to fill in doesn't mean that you have to say something, especially if it's not nice.

Manners, after all, are so 20th Century.

And for the hug, THANK YOU!

[kanarek13]

Awww... keeping my fingers crossed that from now on everything goes as planned {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

I love your post-ep dish, it's the first thing I check even before I watch the ep, just to see if it's gonna be a major squeeee (hmmm, hello rhyme :P) I don't really get people who leave comments just for the sake of bashing... and I don't think I really want to :P The only reasonable thing is delete/ban :)

And HOMG, that Bomer pic *melts* Where is it from? I haven't seen it before! ♥

Let me offer you TDK to go with that Bomer, an oldie but with a new look :D



*and more hugs* :D

[elrhiarhodan]

Thank you so very, very much for this lovely rendition of one of my favorite pics of Mr. DeKay.

(And could I entice you into creating cover art for my Big Bang?)

And thank you - ALWAYS - for your contributions to my Dish. I look forward to your comments and your input - they add so much to the fandom.

[kanarek13]

I would love to give it a try with the art... but I can't guarantee the outcome because I often have an idea for something and then it turns out a giant meh :P But I sure can try :D

[kerrylang.livejournal.com]

Hi Elr!!!

First a huge hug from me!!! XOXO Can't help you from here, unfortunately but my thoughts are with you!

I am so on your side, you don't deserve such a mean comment. This h/she can't be a real fan of the show because if h/she were a real fan she would see the true delight this characters give in every single episode.

Of course every person has a right of their own opinion but they don't have to declare it in such a cruel way.

I love Sara and I don't see why someone could hate her. I loved the actress already on One Tree Hill, so I was happy when she became a member of White Collar. Hilary Burton is a georgous actress and she does her job well. I hope that we're going to see her more on the show again. She suits Neal in a way I like and if it can't be Peter, then I'll accept Sara! LOL

As for Mozzie's story: I like to learn about the history of the characters. It can be in little tidbits like they do it with Diana and Jones, or in the big way like they do it with Neal and Mozzie. If the story is well told and delivered I love it like it was in 4x5.

There will always be people who want to crash the heartfelt community I found here. Please don't take it to your heart too much, they don't deserve it.

And now I want to hug you again until you tumble to the floor for this amazing picture of Matt Bomer!!!!!!! *XOXOXOXO*
Thank you so much!!! I'm swooning and drooling, it's magnificent!!!

[elrhiarhodan]

Thank you so very much - for this and for all of your contributions to the Dish. You create such great conversations with other fans - your enjoyment in the show is postively infectious.

Yeah - I think people just want to be mean because they can. As I said to Frostfalcon, manners are just so 20th century. Sad, isn't it?

[kerrylang.livejournal.com]

Oh yes, it is! :(

Almost every day I encounter people who I could kick to the moon for their bad manners. They seem to have never known a good breeding. In Germany we have a saying that means so much as "Driven through your breeding with a train".

And thanks for your nice words! Yeah, I just love the show and the cast and I love to talk about them. I'm truly addicted.

P.S.: Just realized that it was already episode 4x6 and not 4x5.

[ladyrose42.livejournal.com]

Loved her guest stint on Castle. Completely different from Sara character.

[kanarek13]

Oh, you're right. I completely forgot she was in Castle, in that episode with dogs :D Yes, she was awesome and so not Sara in that one :D

[ladygray99]

*HUGS!!!*

Sorry you're having a rough week of it with the house and all the memories. And sorry you're having to deal with people breaking Wheaton's Law (Don't be A Dick!). It's your journal not a com which means it's your sandbox and you run it however you darn well please. I don't read the Dish because I can never get to White Collar on the day and I don't want to be spoiled but your opinions are your opinions and your rules are your rules and if you have a request people should be polite enough to go with it.

[elrhiarhodan]

Wheaton's Law - forgot about that. I will have to put that above the cut in the next Dish!

Thank you for this and for your hugs.

[miri-thompson.livejournal.com]

So sorry to hear your move is delayed. My family just went through the closing-from-hell with my grandmother's house, so I know just where you're coming from. And the HH Days are pretty early this year--guaranteed to hit when everything else is crazy busy in your life. :/

Meanwhile, feel no guilt about deleting those petty comments on your squee! (How hard is it not to make nasty comments on someone's journal? Yeesh!)

More hugs!

[elrhiarhodan]

Thank you for your kind, kind thoughts. So you know how it goes, eh?

And HUGS you back.

[ladyrose42.livejournal.com]

Some people should watch "Bambi" and learn the lessons there. If you can't say anything nice,don't say anything at all. An ex of mine, could never say anything nice without adding some of sort of back-stabbing comment. It gets old fast. I know when I'm saying something negative about an episode, etc, I do try to rationalize what or why it irritated me. As my DH oftens hears from me, it's just a plot device,relax and enjoy.
As to your buyer, just because the market is poor for the seller is no real reason to be greedy. No house is perfect nor are you(the buyer). I've had renters who think you should pay them for all their complaints, let alone them paying the rent on time. No longer am I a landlord.
Bummer is all I can say to the push back. Having to cancel and reschedule my surgery to just before High Holy Days and days after my birthday just threw so many of my orginal plans out the window. Still reeling slightly and it's been 3 months.
As for your lamp, we did have an excellent lamp repair shop here locally. Haven't checked recently but might be a resource.
Glad to hear some problem children grow up to be responsible adults. There is hope for Neal. (My cursor blinks in time with frostfalcon meow icon - bizarre). Rambling off now.

[elrhiarhodan]

HUGS YOU - you're so very wise.

[ultracape.livejournal.com]

Just a thought about the chandelier. I have a friend who is really into yard sales and thrift shops, finds what I'd consider useless junk and reuses the materials into making something else. She found an old broken stained glass lamp, and took the pieces out to make an amazing stained glass window.

So, maybe you can use the pieces of the chandelier to make something else so that you can keep it and remember it but have something unbroken, beautiful and made by you. You did a great job on your own jewelry.

As to greedy nasty buyer, yup, been there. She's just trying to get the price knocked down. Channel Neal. Think how would Neal Caffrey handle a situation like this, um, uh, if Peter is looking over his shoulder and reading his mind.

I love your post dishes. They extend the watching of WC for me and many times you point out things that I missed.

I also like Sara. I think she's the strong, capable and self assured person I'd like to be when I grow up. Yes, she has her problems but I think she really gets a kick of of her life and we should all be able to have fun, just living.

Okay, I can't give you a physical hug but realize that your nephew is doing that cause he must really love his aunt to help you like that.

All I've got to say.

Thanks for the Bomer and thank you Kanarek13 for the TDK, yummy.

[elrhiarhodan]

The good thing about the lamp is that unless you're really looking for it, you don't notice the missing pendant. If I can't attach the top and bottom parts, I'll just hang the prism to fill in the empty space.

And my greedy, nasty buyer - she'll get just what's coming to her.

My nephew is a good guy - and that will never cease to amaze me.

Thank you!

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[gnomi.livejournal.com]

::hugs::

Sorry to hear some people have no manners. I love the Dish, even when my contributions are minimal. I look forward to it after every new ep.

Good luck with the house stuff, and yay for finding the crystal and the starburst.

And I totally get you on "what happened to summer?" I can't believe we're approaching September (and the High Holy Days) so quickly. Time to ponder if I'm going to write anything for the Days of Awesome if it's done this year.

[winterstar95.livejournal.com]

Lots of big hugs to you - you always deserve hugs and you don't have to ask or make excuses why. People need to hug more!

As for the sale - poop on her (as my boys would say - they are at a certain age) - so we say poop on her and stupid stupid lady (yes I am trying to break them of the habit).

The Dish - well I know I said I was meh about some parts of the episode but I still loved it. I watched it a second time finally and really actually enjoyed it more than I thought I would. Sometimes people, ya just gotta relax. It is a TV show! But on to the poster who was a PITA. Well, I had one of those who went on and on about a point which I very clearly articulated I would not discuss further, but she kept saying I was WRONG. So I ended up deleting the entire conversation because - and here is something you might want to consider - if people really truly do not agree with you and want to post a review about the episode - they have their own journal or can get one and should post it there! Your journal is not their forum! Make a rule!

Your BB is all kinds of \o/ for me because I am a Big hurt comfort fan....but you already know that. As for taking a break, I will have to beg beg beg you for the fic we talked about -- you know the one - the fusion one -- do you consider that h/c or something else. Because I will beg, I will.

Hugs for the journey of life and moving through memories.

Also, yes what the hell happened to summer and also why was it so long and so short? I feel like I waited forever for my vacations and now they are over and all I can think of is how do I prolong the peace in my soul for more than a few weeks? Sigh --- this is why I settle into a comfortable fandom. It is an escape from all the problems of RL.

Any how - many hugs.....

[dizzydrea.livejournal.com]

You know, I think there are just some people who can't say nice things. It's like a sickness with them; they have to point out the negative because that's where they live. It reminds me of a line from one of my favorite rainy day movies, Kelly's Hereos. Oddball (the tank commander) says to his mechanic, "Always with the negative waves, Moriarty. Why don't you say something righteous for a change?" And what does Moriarty say? "Crap." With some people, that's the default setting and there's no changing it.

I've given serious consideration to banning users in the past. I almost did it when I got flamed for writing a story pairing Kate Beckett of Castle with Billy Cooper from Numb3rs. I ranted at my mom for a couple of hours, and then at my dad for like fifteen minutes. Then I shrugged my shoulders and said, "If they don't like it, they shouldn't have read it. I gave them full warning." So, with full warning on your post, feel free to do as you must (as if you needed anyone's permission).

And here's a big, virtual ::hug:: from me. Selling your home is tough, and it's got to be even worse with a buyer giving you hassle. Just stick to what's important to you and don't let them bully you around. You've got lots of support (including the world's most awesome nephew, apparently). It'll all be over soon enough. And if you don't get to celebrate the High Holy Days in your new home this year, it'll be next year, and it'll be even better because you'll have had plenty of time to plan.

As the Python boys say... look on the bright side of life!

[joy2190.livejournal.com]

Sorry to hear about your challenging buyer. I'm sure Mozzie would have a plan do deal with that!

Going through your fathers things I hope brings some comfort and closure to you. When my mom passed I had a difficult time of it, so my heart goes out to you. You might like to try a glass blower to repair the chandelier? An art restorer could probably help but would be much more expensive (my ex was an antique dealer).

I cannot imagine anyone hating Sara. Elizabeth, Diana, Sare and June are our household's Four Musketeers, although we love to hate Keller and Kramer (not that anyone could really hate Beau Bridges!) because they are such wonderful villans!

Sorry if my review was not totally stellar. It seems like the style of the show changes from time to time, maybe they are trying out different things, so I guess it does not suit (pun intended) everyone all the time. I find myself baffled by the continuity flaws but none the less enjoy the show tremendously and welcome the different turns it takes. It does get pretty silly at times, but so what. We all need a little silly and it is such a welcome change from all the heavy crime shows around. I think its lightness is one of the shows greatest strengths.

Anyway, enough said...

"HUG"

[(Anonymous)]

Many times I "sent" you lots of hugs, but when you asked for hugs I had no Internet access, so I send mine now... Are you feeling it? I'm a big "hugger", when you feel yourself hugged and you don't know the hugger, maybe it's a hug of mine :-)

About the post you disliked... s/he was merely repeated what other people had said - and I hadn't replied to other people's "squee quashing."? Let me write the same with different words: "I'm not capable of an original thinking but I like waste my time parroting the words of others"... Dante Alighieri wrote: "Non ti curar di lor, ma guarda e passa" (= "don't care about them, let's look and go on")
Please, don't ban anonymous posts, I "love" let you choose if something is worth to be published (or not).
Another anonymous hug.

[maiac.livejournal.com]

Am I being unreasonable to expect contributors to respect the occasional limits I put on the Dish? If I say, give me "your thinky and not-so-thinky thoughts" and then say don't bash, don't not be negative, am I contradicting myself?

Not unreasonable at all. If you contradict yourself, very well, you contradict yourself. (Sorry. Just had a Walt Whitman moment there.)

I had a friend who made a distinction between morons and jerks. Morons make us crazy because they lack the capacity, for whatever reason, for recognizing that their behavior is irritating other people, and changing that behavior. Jerks make us crazy because they get some payoff from irritating other people. I think the commenter you just banned is a jerk, and banning is the only way to enforce that the behavior is unacceptable. ...It somehow makes it easier to deal with jerks when I think of Fauna, one of the fairy godmothers in Disney's Sleeping Beauty, saying about Maleficent, "Sometimes I think she's not very happy."

Anyway...

Sympathy for the moving woes. Speaking of people being jerks, I hope your buyer stops jerking you around and you close on the house soon. Hurrah for your nephew turning out to be a lovely young man, and a second hurrah for having the help cleaning out the house. It's must be emotionally draining as well as physically tiring to go through all those memories. I think it's wonderful that you found the crystal pendant. Such things are treasures.

[elrhiarhodan]

Thank you!

I love the distinction - this person was definitely a jerk.

No sign of the buyer being less of a jerk - she (and her lawyer) have not responded to our communication from Friday morning.

The packing has been difficult, especially when dealing with my dad's stuff. My sister was in the weekend before last and was a terrific help with that (she's not the sentimental sort).

And even if I can't fix the pendant crystal, it's still something meaningful.

Again, thank you for your words of encouragement. They are always appreicated. BTW - how's Alex? All forward progress for him, I hope.

[maiac.livejournal.com]

Alexkitty seems to be all better. His appetite and behavior are back to normal. He's been demanding lots of petting, which of course is only his due.

[daria234.livejournal.com]

Hugs! Sorry on all the moving frustrations! But that's very touching that you found something you've been wanting to find for so long.

I'm looking forward to the wcbb. But if you're burned out on h/c, does that mean your next big bang will be all porn? *ignores all the other genres and chooses to believe this*

[elrhiarhodan]

Actually, damn - just realized that there is a strong h/c component in the next BB - I'm signed up for the Poly(amory) Big Bang, and already have about 14k written.

Now - there's some h/c, but honestly, there's a whole lot of smexing going on too.

[kerrylang.livejournal.com]

Ohhh, so looking forward to your story!!! :D

Can't wait!!!

♥

[rabidchild.livejournal.com]

The fuck? BB finals are due on the 1st? Can't we just post the fucking things on our dates? You know this makes me NOT WANT TO FINISH?!?

I have a deep and abiding hate for that program, I really do. I am never doing it again. Please remind me of this next year.

back on topic: *HUGS* Moving sucks, but I'm so glad your nephew is helping out - what a nice thing to do.

And mean people suck. Are you telling me this person saw fit to throw an "I Hate Sara" comment into a post about a non-sara ep? What an asshole. Ignore, delete, ban, repeat.

[elrhiarhodan]

Just checked (because I could be confused too) and yup, final drafts are due September 1.

This BB is way, way too high maintenance for me.

Thank you for the hugs, darling - they are so greatly appreciated. Moving sucks, particularly when you've lived in the same place for 16+ years.

And yeah, mean people clearly suck, and blow. I'm fed up with them. In RL, in IL. Not taking it anymore. The "I Hate Sara" thing was like she was giving me the finger. Too stupid for words.

[dennih23.livejournal.com]

Hope your day and week gets progressively better. It is always frustrating to deal with the jerks in life – whether is it RL or IL. I swear they live to torment others.

Packing up a house you’ve been in for a long time is difficult but it is nice you found something special you thought was gone. I hope you find a way to restore the chandelier, I am sure it is beautiful. I hope you continue to encounter positive memories as you continue to pack.

Finally, it is your journal, you can post what you want! Others should play nice and respect your wishes. I hope you continue to do the Post Ep Dish – I truly enjoy reading everyone’s ideas.

Thank you for sharing a little of yourself with the rest of us, you are one of the reasons I started a LJ journal and I want you to know that a lot of us appreciate you.

[elrhiarhodan]

Thank you so much - it delights me to no end that I inspired you to become part of the LJ community.

[ivorysilk]

*hugs* Re the Dish: You know I don't participate because I'm a spoilerphobe and also delayed re ep watching, but I say its your journal, you get to call parameters. It's also your place in fandom, and how you choose to participate in it--there are some fans you genuinely enjoy nitpicking or criticizing, and that's how they participate--you choose to participate by loving the canon and quite frankly, that's the way I also choose to participate (I mean, I might be a little nitpicky, but you know I love them all!)

I also just read a fantastic fic on AO3 but a new author, and that's making me happy right now--it's called Details, and it is totally lovely! It made me feel better. You should read it :-)

[elrhiarhodan]

I just read that fic, it's terrific!

And thank you so much for your understanding and support. HUGS YOU BACK.

[damietta.livejournal.com]

Just think how far you've come on getting the house; the closing will be a distant memory, too.

Three is an awful lot of hate built up in the world right now. I can't believe people troll places to place it.

I liked the episode as it just was a relief from the storyline and sometimes you just need a pause.

[elrhiarhodan]

One of the reasons why I loved the episode was that it wasn't more high angst and false drama between Peter and Neal. And I loved the interactions between Neal and Peter in the car, Neal and Moz in the apartment. Of course Moz and June are the dynamic duo and Peter and Moz need their own miniseries.

So getting the message of hate was just, well, unacceptable.

I know that RL will vastly improve - but it's still difficult to live through.

[crism79.livejournal.com]

Well, here's more hugs from me *huge hugs* Thank you too for the hugs you sent me (in the form of that Neal/Peter!hug animation) which I loved and really made me smile and face that which was frustrating me *hugs you some more*. Really sending you positive vibes so that things with your house sale goes smoothly and as you want it to go :)

I don't think you are contradicting yourself when you ask people not to bash on something but ask for their opinion. For me that's two very different things. Giving your opinion on something has to be constructive, if you didn't like a certain scene/character you may try to explain why and be open to other people's opinions, and even discuss it (see things from another perspective can make you change your mind). Bashing is just saying you hate it because you just do and while saying it you don't back it up with a reason/explanation, plus normally people are very rude about it. For me it's the way you say it that makes the difference, because people who like to bash aren't normally open to listen to other people's opinions and won't budge from their point of view. I think you did the right thing by deleting and banning her/him, it was just uncalled for what s/he wrote. Besides it's your sandbox ;P

about the crystal for the chandelier can't you try looking for restoration shops? Maybe someone has a similar piece hanging around or know how to fix it? Or know someone who might? I know it's a long shot but who knows?

*silly smile* Ooo I like bonus Bomer, here's some more hugs :D *hugs you again*

[teaboyfan.livejournal.com]

Sending good thoughts your way - sorry the world seems to have so many jerks in it sometimes. Moving is an awful hassle even when things go smoothly, so I hope you'll be settled and happy soon.

I too enjoy your post-episode dishes, and Sam's Three Things; they often help me formulate my own thoughts more clearly. I don't like Sara very much, but I would never be disrespectful toward someone who does, and the idea of coming into your journal and disregarding your wishes...well, that's like someone coming into your house uninvited and insulting you. Why are some people so threatened by others who disagree with them that they would troll your journal? They must not have very much confidence in their opinions if a different viewpoint is so scary.

And thank you for the lovely bonus Bomer. Less than an hour until White Collar now!

[elainasaunt.livejournal.com]

Hey, sending more late hugs your way. Am especially bummed to hear about Ms Greedy and Nasty. Property transactions and moving are hard enough as it is. As for the Dish troll, I'm going to be really evil and suggest that, in addition to banning such people, we should pity them. After the first flush of anger, I always think, "Geez, only a real loser would write something like that. Poor girl/guy." There are those who say pity is a negative emotion. I like to go a step further and think of it as a weapon. (Joking. Mostly.)

I'm still so behind on everything, but at least now I have a few days to catch up. Ping me if you get a chance.